It is my opinion that those who have made it to substantial sobriety have a moral responsibility to help those still struggling. But, keep in mind that my parental, spousal, career-based, personal sobriety, and spiritual responsibilities need to be balanced as well.
- Follower of Jesus Christ
- Father
- Husband
- Career: Software Engineering Tech Lead
- Sponsor
- Christian Mentor
- Peer Support for Mental Health
- Mental Health Advocacy Role
Please keep in mind the following verses as we struggle when we are newly in recovery. Inviting us to bars, parties that revolve mostly around drinking, work conferences that are mostly about drinking, and so on are not appropriate when it comes to those without substantial sobriety.
Note that I have attended such events in substantial sobriety, but only with a very clear purpose. When being "designate driver," I prefer to drop off and pick up without actually attending the event. When I know my fellow co-workers or bosses are going to get really drunk, not attending can be even more advantageous. I remind them ahead of time to say they cannot make any decisions or talk about any topics until I am present. Beingly that I am openly alcoholic, it lets them shut down any situation even when they are already getting themselves in trouble. I will attend and do the absolute least amount required (normally shaking hand and eating their food) when my boss dictates that I must go. I leave at the earliest opportunity once I have completed the minimum requirements.
- Romans 14: 20-21: "20. Do not tear apart the work of God over what you eat. Remember, all foods are acceptable, but it is wrong to eat something if it makes another person stumble. 21. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble."
- 1 Corinthians 8:13: "Therefore, if food causes my brother or sister to fall, I will never again eat meat, so that I will not cause my brother or sister to fall."