Recovery Life Skills

My approach to long term recovery while holding a full time job, parenting, and combating mental illness.

My Story

Audience: Dual Diagnosis

My experience is living a life of dual diagnosis. Treating has a much lower probability of success than other addiction cases, so my program that I live on a daily basis has to go all in. I recommend trying the standard approaches because the way that has kept me sober is intense and a much harder program. I recommend reserving 2 hours a day indefinitely until beginning the sponsorship process for others

My mental illness has gotten worse in sobriety
  • My depressive episodes are now worse
  • My manic episodes are now worse
  • I have to take more medications
  • My side effects are much worse
I want my old life back
  • We may not get our spouse back
  • We may not get our kids back
  • We may not have our liver cirrhosis healed
Multiple Approaches
Was The Day Worth Living?
  • I still have a chance to make a difference tomorrow?
  • Did I take a drink?
What about 12-step programs?

12-step programs are the most popular and widely available approach to recovery. They can be very effective for many people, but they may not be the right fit for everyone. It's important to explore different options and find what works best for you.

Not sure the 12 steps are the right program? Listen to Joe & Charlie's Introduction
Today's Typical AA Sponsorship Program

I have seen and helped people make this approach work if they do not have direct dependents

  • 90 Days in Rehab
  • 90 Days in Sober Living
  • 90 Meetings in 90 Days
My sample schedule after 9 years of sobriety
FrequencyActivity
1 day a weekFull Time Job & AA meeting
1 day a weekFull Time Job & Bible Study
3 days a weekFull Time Job
1 day a weekDay Off & Service Work
1 day a weekDay Off, Home Group & Church
All DaysUpon Awakening, Immediate Amends, Step Work (current step)
12-Steps and Biblical Inspiration
  1. Admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. — Romans 7:15–19
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. — Philippians 2:13; 2 Timothy 1:7
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. — Proverbs 3:5–6; Matthew 6:10
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. — Lamentations 3:40
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. — James 5:16
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. — Ezekiel 36:26
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. — Psalm 51:10
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. — Luke 6:31
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. — Matthew 5:23–24
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. — Proverbs 28:13
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. — Philippians 4:6–7
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. — Galatians 6:1–2

Family Member Resources

I am so tired of watching my friends intentionally or unintentionally ending their lives before even trying a few things on this list: